At the end of last week I ventured to Hershey Park with my kids to meet up with one of my dear friends and her kids. I love rollercoasters but have not ridden any in about 10+ years due to kids. I was looking forward to the coasters and riding them with my kids. My expectation of sharing the fun was one I had a hard time letting go of, something I talk about in my classes. I encourage my students to let go of their expectations of what they think should happen and just be in the experience. It would have been good for me to have remembered that a bit sooner during our trip.
My expectation that my kids would love rollercoasters as much as I do was not to happen. Looking back I wish i had softened my grasp of this expectation, but instead I could not understand why they didn't. I went from having fun to frustration, to enjoying the time to back to frustration with their fear and/or anxiety. So, while I was not riding many coasters physically with my kids I was riding one heck of an emotional one. Not one of my more stellar parenting moments but my reflection back on it will hopefully help in the future.
Our lives are typically filled with ups, downs, slow rise and fast drops, twists, spins, turns and feeling like we are upside down. The more we fight to change others versus our own reaction makes the ride more like the old wooden coasters, very bumpy where you feel like you are getting beat up, so my emotional ride last week was more like a wooden coaster. This week the ride has been more like the newer rides, still has the thrills but much smoother.
I am a DC based yoga teacher, wife, mother of two kids and three animals who is using yoga both on and off the mat to find balance.