The horrible tragedy in Orlando and then hearing about the 2yr old boy killed by an alligator was too much for me. I honestly have only taken in a few details as I just cannot emotionally handle the sadness those details would deepen. Ripple effects,
We are impacted or notice the ripple effects of those around us even if we have no relationship or conversation with them. When a person is smiling it is hard not to smile back. While I was driving to teach this week I saw a man dancing with such joy along 13th St NW to the music playing in his ears that the ripple effect on me was first a smile then joy.
As you move through your weekend notice how the energy of those around you have ripple effects. Frustrated children I know has a direct ripple effect on me as does the laughter of a toddler. We cannot of course bury our heads or isolate ourselves but we can allow the positive energy around us to have a ripple effect on us. Likewise we can take notice when negative energy is in turn bringing us down and choose the best way to handle. Maybe that means walking away or for me acknowledging the tragedy but not needing to imerse in the details.
I wish I had a picture of the man I saw dancing to share as it really was such a positive ripple effect.
It was a busy but relaxing weekend where I enjoyed quality time with my family, took care of some errands and baked a cake. Here are the highs & the mudane but not many pictures.
It was a lovely and overall relaxing weekend, so cheers to it and to a week filled with moments of balance.
Making plans for today, next week, next year and daily to do lists are elements of many lives. Some of us do it as a necessary part of keeping our lives in order, or even our menatal sanity. I know some that plan out every moment of every day and others that don't plan anything. Personally I fall in between, I like having a framework of events, appointments, activities filled in to my calendar but I have learned to scrap those plans when needed.
After I first had my daughter I had a very grand idea of what I would get done while working from home with an infant sans help. For any fellow parent you probably LOL on that one. Reality set in quickly and once I let go of my expectations, I was able to actually be present with my baby and keep my sanity, somewhat. This was easier with the second as I knew going in to not expect to get anything done work wise, so when I did it was a huge accomplishment.
My lesson over the years has been to learn to go with the flow more, to look at my plans and know that they may need to be adjusted or scratched at any moment. Feelings of disappointment, frustration or anger still arise but I try to remind myself that plans are fine to make but be ready to watch them wash away with the tide. Don't get me wrong I am still learning and still working to find the balance between getting those items on the list done while enjoying the moments that are right in front of me.
As the school year is wrapping up for my kids we have lots of unscheduled time, sprinkiled with a vacation and camp, that I hope to simply enjoy being with my kids. My fond childhood memories of summer in Texas were spending every day at the pool (and I do mean every day and all day), riding my bicycle and days at the beach. No plans, now as a mom in 2016 the idea of no plans in one respect sounds great and then sends me into panic. So, now I will breathe, and remind myself to look for the joy in each moment as they come instead of trying to plan for them.
"My body is a present of perfect design.
My mind is a power as endless as time."
From I'm Thankful Each Day
by PK Hallinan
The above is what I recited at the end of my classes this week which is from a book that I read at the end of my Tots & Tykes class as I love the message and think that we as adults need to hear, myself included. Our bodies are a present, one we should take care of by keeping moving, learning and feeding it the healthy food it needs. No worries I am also a big supporter of treats (hello chocolate) and enjoy my Chardonnay but of course all in balance. Honoring the gift of our physical form in this lifetime with all its unique characteristics is a new perspective I am working to take in place of viewing my body as having imperfections.
You see our "mind is a power as endless as time" as if we change the story, the narrative we can view ourselves in a new way. My children have expressed dislikes toward their own physical appearence, my son in a minor way in regards to his hair and a particular mole. My daughter has expressed her dislikes in a way that pulls my heart when I hear it. My husband and I ask questions to understand the source, then talk about our own characteristics and work to reinforce her own uniqueness. Sometimes we are more successful than others and I hope that this is part of growing up, being more aware of the social aspects is normal but I hope that we can help her to recognize that her body is a perfect present and her mind is her own power that is endless. It would be good for her mom to walk the talk so that is what I am working to do.
I ended my classes this week with the mantra Om Namah Shivaya, Thomas Ashley-Farrund in his book Healing Mantras says to "Chant with the idea that all of us should become perfect, each in his or her own way." That idea makes me smile so I hope it does for you too.
I am a DC based yoga teacher, wife, mother of two kids and three animals who is using yoga both on and off the mat to find balance.